At Temple Sholom, families may choose to create a uniquely personal b’nai mitzvah experience that is inspired by and grounded in an articulated set of values. Through a few learning sessions, families identify their values and explore how those values could inform the b’nai mitzvah process. Additionally, families participate in Shabbat morning learning services so they can develop greater understanding of the service structure. Families that choose to invest in the process work with the clergy to craft a b’nai mitzvah service experience that aligns with both the family’s and the congregation’s values. Temple Sholom aims to give children the option to express themselves personally, spiritually, and theologically throughout the b’nai mitzvah experience. Examples include writing songs as interpretations of the prayers, writing a creative service, or translating prayers into other languages for non-English speaking family members.
Parents and children have to be invested in this unique process, especially the children. If they don’t want to do it, they won’t be excited and happy about the b’nai mitzvah experience. For this reason, Temple Sholom still offers the option for families to have “typical” b’nai mitzvah experience.
Grade levels: 5, 6
Learners: Children (pre-B’nai Mitzvah)
Everyone in the target audience is required to participate in the program.
Year Implemented: 2013
Areas:
Temple Sholom
Fanwood, NJ
240 members
Reform Congregation
B’nai Mitzvah each year: 15